Please be patient and read the whole post before you automatically assume that I am complaining.
I have been playing GW2 for 6 years, and GW1 for years before that. I did stop playing a lot for about 3 years in the middle, but never really went away. I am confident in my abilities with a number of different professions, and I am familiar with a lot of in-game mechanics. All of my experience, however, is with PvE and a tiny bit of sPvP. I played WvW in the beginning, and ran with the zerglings for a while, but never really learned the way of WvW. Then things changed, and I lost interest in anything WvW. Once I came back to the game, and got used to the elite specializations of my beloved characters, I decided I would try WvW again.
After reading a lot (and I do mean a LOT) I decided to enter the borderlands and see what I could do. The map was pretty empty where I materialized, and there was no chat to even give me a hint where the zerg (or monoblob or group or whatever) might be. Add to that, there was one commander tag, and it disappeared within a few moments after I logged in. I wandered around and killed a few vet mobs hoping I'd run across someone, but never did. A few things came across chat like "Need more north" (North what?) or "Need [someone] at [somewhere I haven't seen.]" When I asked in map chat hoping someone would give me directions, I was told what amounted to "If you don't know what you're doing, get out." How the hell am I supposed to learn what I am supposed to be doing if all I hear is "go away?" So I ran around and killed a few more mobs and one Charr with an opposing flag at a border (got a reward for doing it.) A short time later, I got a whisper from a random person that said I really needed to be in Discord so I could hear what was going on. I said thank you and realized with some sadness that a person with hearing loss is out of luck if you want to play WvW. So I killed a few more mobs and then went back to PvE. It wasn't a good experience at all. It doesn't mean I won't go back, though, as it could have been just a bad day.
Here's where the problem is. Things have changed so much since the beginning years of the game that I am completely lost. I have characters, and I know how to play them for PvE, so I am not completely ignorant of the interplay between skills, but I am in need of direction. Without mapchat or at least someone who can relay directions to me, I would be pretty much useless in a zerg. So, with all of that in mind, here are my questions:
Thank you in advance for your advice.