I’ve been wondering about Human customs when it comes to mourning periods, and that got me thinking about marriage in general across the various races. I can’t recall the topic coming up throughout the story in the base game (havent done the expansions yet), and I can’t find much on it on the wiki either. I'm sorry this is so messy, if someone more knowledgeable could fill me in then that'd be appreciated. Tbh I don’t really know what to put here, so here’s just some thoughts and observations I’ve made from the game.
Humans: As opposed to some of the other races, marriage seem to be a cornerstone of society in human cultures. Nobles appear to be pressured to marry other nobles, and Queen Jennah is (apparently?) pushed to marry and have an heir. But do we know anything more concrete than that? Can nobles refuse to get married if their parents have decided it, or do they have no say when it comes to marriage? Can a noble marry a commoner with few consequences? Would a commoner be more free to wed who they want, and choose when? Seeing as Kryta is kinda medieval-y, I’m guessing nobility would usually marry in their early-mid twenties (as what was the norm in most European countries), and other maybe a bit later… but idk.
The only human/human couple that comes to mind in the main story is Kasmeer and Marjory, but they’re not married, are they? It doesn’t seem Tyrian cultures in general are particularly homophobic (maybe the Flame Legion or Sons of Svanir, but beyond those ??), so is there a reason they haven’t married?
Norn: The Wiki says: “Norn are known to marry, but only if the couple is of equal status. During the wedding, someone must speak on behalf of the couple in order to show that they are a worthy match for each other.” “Known to marry” - for me that implies it happens, just that most Norns don’t. If Norns don't have an upper class/nobility like Humans have, then "equal status" I guess would be that their legends have to be as epic/grand, or whatever. Or maybe they’d have to own land/be about as wealthy or something. Does the whole "equal status" thing appear in-game?
Kinda stupid question, but wouldn’t that mean that a Norn Commander/PC would have a hard time finding another Norn that would be considered worthy to get to marry them? I get that it would be a bad idea to refuse the PC, but if the Norn are really bent on tradition then it might cause some problems…
Charr: I’ve barely played them, but my understanding is that most Charr don’t marry, but instead pick a mate in order to have kids, and once the child (cub?) is born the parents don’t have any obligations to each other. Or… something like that?
With the Flame Legion being heavily misogynistic, is (forced) marriage common? Or maybe the other way around? The Flame Legion wiki site is very sparse on the “culture” section, unfortunately.
Sylvari: The wiki mentions how Sylvari view romantical love and sexuality, but doesn’t mention marriage. Personally, I’d find it a bit weird if most Sylvari adopted what seems to be a chiefly Human tradition. That some people would, yeah, but I can’t imagine it would be something the Pale Tree would have “instructed” them on.
Asura: No idea honestly. Sorry, I haven't played Asura.