This is fantastic post. I played GW1 when I was 30-ish so there are three things you can tell about me now: I'm not young, I don't do 200 APM, and I don't play for 8h a day. I actually think I play a lot for my "age group" like maybe 2-3h/d. I am also paying customer though, so ANET beware 😉
I am in PvE only guild. Out of 150 people, 3 are actually playing WvW at all. They are both "server moms" and they are great moms in my opinion. My age/skill/free time tells me that only thing I can actually aspire to is to be one of them as well. I'm not great at fights, and I accept that. But I always tried to be useful. Scout, support, call out-of-place enemies, always have supplies, built arrow carts, rams and catas.
Change guild? No WvW guild would want me, and I don't blame them, no WvW guild would want my guild in alliance (with 3 active WvW players) and I don't blame either, so I will be just a random with other random people, or maybe I won't as I will just slowly stop playing. This does not play well with my social anxieties.
Should I shut up and get... younger?
So, why I'm saying all this? Because, as it was mentioned on this thread as well, ANET wants feedback so ANET should get feedback. I we don't tell them, they won't know (don't overestimate their analytics).
PS. Two moms who recently were playing WvW all the time (30k AP, 40k AP) are not logging in for last week.
Don't make WvW an elitist club / mutual admiration society. BTW, how is End of Dragons meta doing?