Being asked to join voice is not harassment or control, if you dont want to follow instructions thats on you. You cant expect a tag to type everything to accomodate you.
You have tried tagging but nobody followed so you give up? The commanders we have didnt just stroll into WvW one day and get full squads on day one. They have invested a huge amount of time and effort into establishing themselves as leaders. Successfully leading requires skill and giving the group constant direction, claim this as control if you like. Not understanding the effort it takes to have any size group complete an objective, win a fight etc results in you complaining about the game mode and claiming harassment.
If you want ACTUAL harassment, tag up everyday for hours and be told you're kitten over and over, even if you do well someone will still say you are kitten, people complain relentlessly no matter what you do and good luck dealing with snowflakes like yourself in your squad.